Through dating apps as a technology and as a business model, insecurity has been structurally built into modern dating.
More than 350 million people worldwide now use dating apps, generating over $6 billion annually. Yet users are faring worse by almost every psychological measure. A 2025 U.K. cohort study found that dating app use was associated with greater loneliness, while general social media showed no such effect. Many studies have linked dating app use to higher rates of depression, anxiety, and psychological distress.
People are not just frustrated with these apps. They are leaving, or giving up on dating altogether. The Los Angeles Times reports that since 2022, Tinder’s U.S. monthly active users have dropped from roughly 18 million to 11 million. What many of these daters don’t realize: the bad workman really does have bad tools.
Solmangrundy on
Online dating used to be good when it first came out. And then they ruined it with paywalls.
I do not blame people using video games now as a new avenue for online dating since its the only thing that seems personal since you know you’re talking to a real person over voice chat.
And AI bots haven’t reached the point yet where their activity in a virtual game space mimics a human 1 to 1. Especially in VR games that use face/body tracking.
Creativator on
Online dating is speed dating via app, and have you ever been to a wedding where the bride and groom met at speed dating?
The reason is obvious: speed is bad for emotional connection.
People fall in love by repeated contact in their community. For modern people, their only remaining source of community is education or the workplace.
When that failed, apps filled in the gap. But they are built entirely wrong for how people fall in love.
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Through dating apps as a technology and as a business model, insecurity has been structurally built into modern dating.
More than 350 million people worldwide now use dating apps, generating over $6 billion annually. Yet users are faring worse by almost every psychological measure. A 2025 U.K. cohort study found that dating app use was associated with greater loneliness, while general social media showed no such effect. Many studies have linked dating app use to higher rates of depression, anxiety, and psychological distress.
People are not just frustrated with these apps. They are leaving, or giving up on dating altogether. The Los Angeles Times reports that since 2022, Tinder’s U.S. monthly active users have dropped from roughly 18 million to 11 million. What many of these daters don’t realize: the bad workman really does have bad tools.
Online dating used to be good when it first came out. And then they ruined it with paywalls.
I do not blame people using video games now as a new avenue for online dating since its the only thing that seems personal since you know you’re talking to a real person over voice chat.
And AI bots haven’t reached the point yet where their activity in a virtual game space mimics a human 1 to 1. Especially in VR games that use face/body tracking.
Online dating is speed dating via app, and have you ever been to a wedding where the bride and groom met at speed dating?
The reason is obvious: speed is bad for emotional connection.
People fall in love by repeated contact in their community. For modern people, their only remaining source of community is education or the workplace.
When that failed, apps filled in the gap. But they are built entirely wrong for how people fall in love.