Neue Forschungsergebnisse geben Aufschluss über das psychologische Rezept für Groll. Die Ergebnisse deuten darauf hin, dass Opfer, wenn diese beiden Emotionen zusammenkommen, dazu neigen, die Person, die ihnen Unrecht getan hat, als grundsätzlich unmoralisch zu betrachten, was einen dauerhaften Groll fördert.
New research sheds light on the psychological recipe for a grudge
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>a specific emotional cocktail of both hurt feelings and anger.
To bypass the clickbaitiness of the title
I find it strange that they completely ignore the third option of avoidance. If I hold a grudge against someone they’re dead to me, I seek neither revenge nor reconciliation.
Hmm, it makes sense that when hurt and anger come together, it becomes harder to let things go. I can see how that could make someone hold a grudge for a long time.
I wouldn’t say I view my grudges as fundamentally immoral I just don’t want to have to teach people how to treat me. Often its how they treat other people below them in society thats the grossest and being white and middle class other whites will often think you think like them in that way. I try to say something more often than not now, but often these people arn’t that receptive so it can feel like a useless challenge and afterall there are 7billion others I could likely enjoy more as company. Holding onto hate usually poisons yourself not and doesn’t change them though sadly
From my experience in therapy it seems well known that anger is a secondary emotion, and is an attempt to motivate the person to change their circumstances, aka address the source of the hurt. Often, this is not possible, so people are stuck with the hurt and they have two choices – work with it and let it fade away (Acceptance and Committment therapy, or mindfulness, or psychedelics, etc.), or do nothing and hope it goes away on it’s own. If it doesn’t, then you’re hurt and angry for a long time, sometimes forever.
I’m kind of surprised this is being painted as new research, seems pretty well understood already. Not necessarily common knowledge, but the mechanism has been known for a while.
A good reminder to measure whether or not I’m
succumbing to unrealistic emotional conclusion that someone is immoral, and to objectively consider if they are actually immoral.