Kinder, die mit einem „autoritären“ Erziehungsstil erzogen werden, der sich durch Bindung, Präsenz, Dialog und klare Verhaltensregeln auszeichnet, zeigen im Vergleich zu anderen Erziehungsstilen (autoritär, freizügig und nachlässig) ein geringeres Drogen- und Alkoholrisiko.
https://agencia.fapesp.br/parents-alcohol-and-drug-use-influences-their-childrens-consumption-research-shows/57195
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> The reduction in risk is more significant when the relationship between generations is marked by bonding, presence, dialogue, and clear rules of conduct – characteristics of the so-called “authoritative” parenting style, which combines acceptance and monitoring. Four parenting styles were analyzed in total (see table). The other styles were authoritarian, which reduced the risk of drug use but had less impact on alcohol, as well as permissive and neglectful. The latter two did not have any protective effects.
>Consumption profiles were divided into three groups: abstainers, those who only drink alcohol, and those who use two or more substances.
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>Alcohol consumption by parents was associated with a 24% probability of their children using alcoholic beverages and a 6% probability of their children using two or more drugs. If guardians consume multiple substances, the risk of young people using them rises to 17% and 28%, respectively.
[Does the apple fall far from the tree? when parenting styles disrupt the intergenerational pattern of substance use – ScienceDirect](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0306460325003363)
„bonding, presence, dialogue and clear rules“ are the so-called „authoritative“? Uh. I thought authoritative was about just, shouting, rules for thee but not for me, making children afraid of speaking up, always putting yourself first before the kids.
Which is why the title left me so confused. No clue why that is defined „authoritative“ parenting, it just seems like good parenting to me.
TIL the difference between authoritative and authoritarian…
Wow reading comprehension sucks in some people…
I suspect most authoritarian parents think they’re just being „authoritative“.
Words are important yall.
Bonding, so actually forming connections with the kid beyond „I’m parent, you mine“
Presence, being there
Dialogue, meaning conversation. That can mean a discussion, a chat, a debate, an argument, and more.
Clear rules of conduct. They put it plainly to be more ***clear***.
Authoritarian would lack the dialogue that makes the rules „clear“. -because I said so-
The bond is possessive and controlling to the point of suppressing the development of self.
Permissive lacks the rules, and gives little to no guidance beyond the kids wants.
Neglect lacks all of them.
I learned about this recently in my educational psychology class, turns out that having firm but somewhat negociable boundaries is probably healthier then extremely strict or absent boundaries. The textbook used an example of an Asian family in which the parents set high expectations and examples for their children but will explain their logic, are willing to negotiate less stricter boundaries, and still show their children love and affection, so basically the family from fresh off the boat.
Tl;Dr kids raised with rules become better people than those who were raised being allowed to do whatever they want. Science.
Emphasis on bonding, presence and dialog for parents reading *authoritative* with a satisfied mind
Fundamentally no different than owning dogs. They’re happier and well-behaved when the owner is the alpha, sets clear rules, and enforces discipline.
These categories remind me of the attachment styles.
„This is the preferred one, and here are all the ways you can do it wrong“
Skeptical
I can vouch. I grew up with authoritative, permissive, neglectful parents) and I have substance abuse issues. They were immigrants from the former Yugoslavia. Whom came to Canada. They were basically in survival mode. Doesn’t excuse their behaviour but explains a lot, how I was brought up, and the difficulties I know experience as an adult.
With all things parenting – it depends on the child. There is no one-size-fits-all approach. Obviously these traits are always important, but they need to be fine-tuned a lot depending on the child.
For some kids, this style isn’t firm enough. For others it will create resentment of a holier-than-thou approach. Overall though, I agree it is best.
„What is something that is totally obvious, alex?“
Who would’ve thought eh.
These definitions of parenting styles have been around for quite a while and research consistently indicates that authoritative parenting is superior. The public needs more education about parenting regardless of whether they are already parents, are thinking about becoming parents, or never intend to be parents. Considering the confusion I’ve seen here, the people who decide these things (whoever they are) should consider an alternative name for authoritative if they want the general public to understand.
This needs to circulate more, I work with kids and half of what I do is teach parents normative authoritative parenting like it’s a secret magic. Its just normal parenting. Stop trying to be their friend, they need rules and consequences. „Talking it out“ isn’t a consequence. People are so afraid of becoming their boomer parents that they just stopped parenting and act like an older sibling. One of the biggest problems in America today imho
My parents were very authoritarian and I definitely had issues with alcohol in my 20s and still regularly consume cannabis. I still love them but, the older I get, the more I’m like “damn, what was your problem?”
Stuff like I couldn’t go over to friends houses without them calling their parents to make sure they were home (in high school) and kids would stop inviting me to stuff because they didn’t wanna bother with my parents. I live 2,000 miles away from them now, I see them a couple times a year, and that’s plenty for me.
Pretty much all parenting style research comes to the conclusion that authoritative parenting is best.
I learned it from watching you!!
In case anyone is wondering the difference between authoritative and authoritarian parental styles, in a wildly simplified manner.
Authoritative parent when a child asks „why?“: explain the reasoning for your rules and why its important that your child follow them so they can make an informed decision to obey for their own benefit.
Authoritarian parent when a child asks „why?“: „Because I said so, that’s why.“