Untersuchungen legen nahe, dass emotionale Intelligenz romantische Beziehungen vor allem durch ein einziges, spezifisches Verhalten verbessert: einem Partner das Gefühl zu geben, geschätzt und geschätzt zu werden. Studien deuten darauf hin, dass der Schlüssel zu einer glücklicheren Partnerschaft darin liegen könnte, regelmäßig zum Ausdruck zu bringen, dass der Partner etwas Besonderes ist.
This behavior explains why emotionally intelligent couples are happier
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>New research suggests that emotional intelligence improves romantic relationships primarily through a single, specific behavior: making a partner feel valued and appreciated. While emotionally intelligent people employ various strategies to manage their partners’ feelings, the act of valuing stands out as the most consistent driver of relationship quality. This finding implies that the key to a happier partnership may be as simple as regularly expressing that one’s partner is special. The study appears in the [Journal](https://doi.org/10.1177/02654075251399696) of Social and Personal Relationships.
>Emotional intelligence is broadly defined as the ability to perceive, understand, and manage emotions. Psychologists have recognized a connection between this skill set and successful romances. People with higher emotional intelligence generally report higher satisfaction with their partners. Despite this established link, the specific mechanisms explaining why these individuals have better relationships have remained unclear.
>One theory proposes that the answer lies in how people regulate emotions. This concept encompasses not only how individuals manage their own feelings but also how they influence the feelings of those around them. This latter process is known as extrinsic emotion regulation. In a romantic partnership, this often involves one person trying to cheer up, calm down, or validate the other.
I tell my fiancee every morning, just as we wake up, that I love her. First thing. Then as we go through our routine I will always give her small touches and kisses. Before we go to work I give her the biggest hug telling her how lucky I am to be with her and how much she means to me.
What are some examples?
You took quite the editorial liberty in your title didn’t you?
There’s a difference between valuing your partner and using high Emotional Intelligence to make them feel valued (what the paper measured) and “simply expressing they’re special” as your title says. Also your title is wrong it’s not a single specific behavior. The paper clearly states the other two they studied matter but were more complicated in the outcomes.
It’s interesting how much of relationship happiness comes down to communication style, the small check ins and genuine listening. I think some people have been broken one too many times to care.