Diesem Trend folgend, wollte ich mit dem Post von gestern meine eigenen Erfahrungen aus diesem Jahr als Mann posten, der erst im Frühling letzten Jahres ernsthaft mit dem Dating begonnen hat, nachdem er mit 20 die meiste Zeit seiner 20er Jahre Single verbracht hatte und sich bisher keine Mühe mit Dating gemacht hat. A "Datum" Hiermit ist jedes Einzeltreffen gemeint, bei dem es sich um Werbung zum Zweck einer Beziehung handelt, normalerweise persönlich, aber für ein paar Leute, die weit weg wohnten, habe ich Videoanrufe oder andere digitale Aktivitätstermine gemacht, die ich gezählt habe. Ich habe getrennt, wer wen für jeden Satz von Daten und wo den Begriff abgelehnt hat "gegenseitige Ablehnung" bezieht sich auf das Szenario, in dem sich keiner von uns ausdrücklich gegenseitig ablehnte, wir aber beide nach und nach von der weiteren Interaktion abkamen oder wir uns beide ausdrücklich darauf einigten, dass wir nicht wieder ausgehen würden.
Die überwiegende Mehrheit dieser Daten stammte aus Dating-Apps, vor allem von Hinge (mit Coffee Meets Bagel an zweiter Stelle). Es gab jeweils einen Singleton von Twitter, Reddit und seltsamerweise eine persönliche Anzeige, an der ich im Sommer beteiligt war. Vier kamen persönlich.
Ich freue mich über alle Fragen.
Von Naxela
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30 dates a year. Are you discouraged or are you numb by now?
Did you make this chart while on a third date?
I am baffled by the term ‚ongoing‘!🙃
Has there just not been a fourth date with the “ongoing” person?
I assume this is online dating and you’re very successful on the apps? Because that’s a really high number of first dates
we both have a 26% rate of getting to the second date but i got called a hoe and was told numerous, numerous times that i’m the issue and have all sorts of faults, lol. anyway, wishing you luck in the dating world, OP
I’m just amazed people play the dating game at all seeing these graphs. Seems exhausting (and expensive likely).
Damn bro thats too much rejection for my brain to process
I’m so confused as to why the one third date didn’t become a fourth date and THEN become ongoing? How was a fourth date circumvented in that one case?
Like are non of you getting laid ? Or are those under rejections?
Edit: laid
Would be interested to know if any of the dates led to anything physical? If that’s something you feel like answering.
30 dates with new people in a year sounds fucking exhausting
Ive always wondered, is it like an American thing to go out on a “date” with somebody you dont like (yet) in a sense that you’d be a couple? Or do Americans just like 100 people a year and would consider them a partner for life so to speak? I would never go on a date (or consider it a date?) with just a random girl I started talking to.
Are you of the belief that first dates can only lead to rejection or a second date, with no other option?
I’ve been on plenty of first dates where neither of us pursued the other for a second date, but I guess I never considered that a “rejection” per se on either side. Like if he’d asked me I might have still met up again, or vice versa, but neither of us actually declined a second date. I don’t view those as rejection in either direction, just that it never went anywhere.
Put an indicator where you do sex with the dates or stop posting these plz.
Good luck on that ongoing thing!
Apart from that, the graph is awful. This not at all how a Sankey Graph should look like. You should not have the same three categories all over, after every level of dating. After all, what is the difference? Instead, make those three categories at the left side of the graph and have lines pull in from the different levels. That way, the outcome is much neater, and the source is well visible.
Edit: Like the one in [this post.](https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/s/sbsvFvCy6D)
Dude you realize this stuff is why you’re not getting laid, right?
The got rejected should come back together to form a category. Same with the rejected them, etc
Can’t shake off the impression that you all are not using the Sankey chart properly.
Why not share rejection categories? You only lose visual clarity, not information, by having rejection categories at each level.
And then the „ongoing“ category should be at the top, not lost in the middle of all of the rejection categories.
It’s a mess.
Over what time frame? Months, Years, Weeks! What median time on each date! What was dinner on each date? Online dating-I am 47 years old bi-sexual and gender fuild lol. Glad, clock out of this dating scene after age 41.
You’re doing pretty well to be honest a lot of guys are not even getting 1 date
This is good data and a realistic view of what dating looks like.
Make a „fuck birches, get money“ chart. Someone please for the love of God. I want to see the bitches fucked to money earned ratio of some true playas xD
For the shits and giggles 🤣
I did it myself!!! Hahaha well Nano Banana did it.
https://preview.redd.it/ze3j7smf3bag1.png?width=1440&format=png&auto=webp&s=ba8572a95d559f6f3439b9a14c6b4efe10713296
Why are you starting just with first dates? Including all of the platforms and channels and contacts that didn’t even make it to the first date would be a far more compelling narrative.
Maybe y’all are having trouble finding love because you’re doing shit like making graphs of your dates