Verlieren wir in der modernen Welt die Kunst, Freunde zu finden? – BBC-Nachrichten

Hard to make friends with an attention span of 45 seconds.

It’s harder than people realise.

You go to work, while you get on with people there, a lot of people want to keep work and non work seperate.

Depending what your hobbies are, your “friends” could be the opposite end of the country.

If you have a relationship break down then half the friends you thought you had, disappear.

I think there are a lot of small factors which help to create this problem.

People have less money now to go out with people in the evening.

People have less hobbies such as sports classes nowadays which is a way to meet new people.

People change jobs a lot more often now so are less likely to develop work friendships. The next job could be in a different part of the country making us have to start all over again.

It is SO HARD to make friends as an adult. Even if you join hobby groups, in my experience people are already in friend groups and they arent super welcoming. It just becomes harder the older we get.

I’m at university and it feels like the vast majority of people just don’t know to interact or start conversations.

I attend sports clubs and several societies, most people are just standing around awkwardly in silence, all of the conversation will be between a very small handful of chatty people. When they try to engage in conversation with the quieter people, they’ll barely get any response. When a social event is organized, everyone sits around a pub table in silence, often on phones, looking at social media or dating apps. In lectures, people will sit down next to you and won’t even make eye contact let alone say hello.

Was it always like this?

I think a lot of people underestimate the effort it takes to make and develop new friendships.

In a way, I think the apps and meet up groups make it worse because people think they’ll meet once and be instant friends, or people just want to keep it online instead.

I moved to a brand new city 3 years ago, and it’s been really eye opening going to these events with people not wanting to find out about other people or just monolgoue about themselves, or we then make group chats where some people are too busy to even meet once every couple of months (anyone from the group – surely they didn’t find the whole group intolerable 🤣)