Von null bis 600 Euro teilen junge Erwachsene, die zu Hause leben, mit, wie viel „Miete“ sie ihren Eltern geben

if i was a parent of a child in this scenario.

i would charge rent save the money then a later stage depending where they are in life give the money back for when there in position to get a home of their own or for another important circumstance .

Charging your child rent is wild. Very protestant behaviour. Like something you’d hear they do in Sweden or some country where they don’t feed guests.

People here seem to be under the impression that parents are charging rent for fun. Some households require it especially for small increases in electricity, heating, and then food. Nevermind the fact that many of the people living at home aren’t coming from money. My mam charged me, but I’d never consider it rude, I hardly exist for free? 

This can be a good arrangement if both parent and child are happy with it (parent gets money, kid gets to help out) but if the parent just randomly enforces it on the kid it just breeds resentment. My mam did this to me one summer which I found very unfair because I was actively trying to become more financially independent by working during the summer so I could save for the college year. It wasn’t a discussion, which I would have been happy to have. Plus the mortgage was paid off by then. If the parents need the money that’s one thing but ime that’s not the case for many parents who do this.

My parents outlined their household expenses that I benefited from that came to over €12000 a year (health insurance was a big one, over €4K for the family), not including groceries, so yes I was happy to pay €400 a month. I was on a real salary, why wouldn’t I? 

I offered to pay money as soon as I started working and was told no. I was working and in college so basically was only home to sleep and shower. I paid for all my own food, furniture (Ikea wardrobes, painting walls, bed sheets, new beds and mattresses etc), college equipment, split the cost of new kitchen appliances etc. And gave them my employee discount for the supermarket I worked in which got them 20 percent off food shopping and meaning I couldn’t use that myself.

One day, when myself and father got into an argument, he told me I needed to start paying. I refused. I offered, I contributed, I more than covered for myself. He was not going to use it as something to punish his adult daughter with. I said if he’s not accepting that throw me out.

It used to piss me off that people assume because you’re living at home that you’re eating all their food, being cooked for, laundry done etc. Honestly I don’t think in every situation paying rent is needed, especially if there’s no mortgage and plenty of money. Why wouldn’t you give your kid, who is already at a massive disadvantage compared to you, a chance

I’m so glad I’ve got myself out of that situation now.

Nothing screams Fine Gael more than handing back a lump sum to your adult child so they can get on the property ladder.

Heard of someone who charged their adult son rent, couple of hundred a month.  But the parent had squirreled it away over the years.  When it came time for the son to buy a house, the parent gave him back all the rent +. I think it kept him somewhat acclimatised and grounded and then when it was needed it was a nice surprise. Obviously not everyone has that privilege but I thought it was a good idea. 

I won’t charge my kids to live with me if they need to. It’s not like we need the money. It’s so performative.

We put them in this situation to begin with. If we want our kids to be out and thriving in the world independently and in their own place, that’s our responsibility. We made this screwed up economy and housing market and put them in it.

I don’t need to charge them rent so I can tell Jim and Mary over holiday drinks that ‚at least the good son is paying rent to me, isn’t he a good lad? Aren’t I smart for doing this?‘

Think it depends on the individual households circumstances. It’s a necessity in a lot of cases.

As soon as I finished college and was working full time I was asked to contribute to the household/pay rent(It’s the same thing) I didn’t mind at all as it was far cheaper than renting a room elsewhere. Both my parents have mortgages which were somewhat unaffordable due to marital breakup so I knew they needed it, it wasn’t to line their pockets. Had I not been there they would have rented it to a student. The older I got and the more income i earned the more I gave but it never exceeded €100 a week.

I’ve plenty of friends who weren’t charged anything when living at home and some of then were financially responsible and saved but others just spent their money and never learned how to budget properly. It’s an important part of growing up

In the future, when my kids are grown, I will charge them something and if I’m in the positions to put it aside and give it back to them, I absolutely will but if I’ve still got a mortgage to pay and food to put on the table etc I’ll use it towards the household.

I don’t think it’s a ‚one size fits all‘ thing. It SHOULD be different depending on circumstance.

If they’re saving for a mortgage, and the rent they’re paying their parents isn’t impeding that then it’s all good. But if the parents are charging so much rent that it’s stopping them saving for a mortgage (effectively trapping them there forever), then that’s no good.

If they’re a bit younger, maybe not saving for a mortgage yet and just looking for a free ride, then have at it. Charge them rent like crazy, it’ll teach them am important life lesson.

There’s a million other scenarios you can come up with so it’s a completely pointless topic without specifics.

I don’t pay anything but some caveats.

– my parents paid off their mortgage in 2018
– we have solar panels which bring electricity costs to <€400 for the year
– I buy my own food, pay for my own car, cook food for the whole family x2 a week
– ⁠I have my own health insurance
– ⁠when it’s time for renovations or jobs around the house I provide the labour to do it (most recently gutted and refit a bathroom upstairs that my man wanted done for yonks)
– I take on a greater proportion of the household tasks
– I lived away from home from 22-26 paying my own way so the charging ‘rent’ to give it back at a later date is a wasted lesson on me according to my parents
– saving 70-80% of what I earn depending on the month and what expenses I have to cover.

My parents legitimately would bate me with the wooden spoon if I tried to pay them so I try and give back in other ways that are non monetary and get them extra nice gifts for birthdays & Christmas.

My parents did the rule that it was 1/3 your take home pay to simulate what renting was actually like. My parents also had 6 children and cleared their mortgage in record time because of this.

The future for working age Adults is clearly abroad.

The independent hates young Irish people as much as they hate the idea of an Irish President.

500 per month to help, I offered more but they said no.

Once I got a full time job I started paying rent or whatever you want to call it to my parents until I moved out. Didn’t seem like an issue then, wouldn’t see it as an issue now.

I grew up in my grandparents house, my mother and all my aunts and uncles lived at home until well in to their 20s/30s with periods abroad,over the years had 2 great granny’s,2 grand aunts and a few more waifs and strays a long the way. I was actually the youngest to move out and only because I was pregnant 🤣 They looked after us well and never charged rent and now theyre alone and i bought a house beside them and look after them,not that I feel a sense of debt,more that they deserve it. While I understand financial reasons I can never wrap my head around the „once your 18 youre an adult,feck off“ mentality and to be honest wouldnt want to. Having an easier life helped by your parents doesnt directly correlate with being a waster,its a blessing and any decent person will respect and give back when they are able too and contribute in other ways than money. (Young people or families being forced to move back home after being out of it is a different story and im sure a lot more difficult and draining so im not talking about)

I was living at home for a few years after college. Took me a while to get a job that paid me (hello unpaid internships) and even when I got that my parents wouldn’t take any money from me and told me to build up my savings. I paid my own bills, my work paid for the internet and I paid 95% of my own groceries. I also got them decent presents for birthdays, Christmas etc and didn’t a lot of the household chores. Everyone has different circumstances and I’m so grateful to my parents for this because I now have my own house