Neulich habe ich darüber nachgedacht, dass die Menge an Sex, die ich mit meiner Frau hatte, seit der Geburt meiner Kinder zurückgegangen ist, und habe mich daher entschlossen, ein Diagramm zu erstellen, um zu veranschaulichen, wie der Unterschied im Vergleich zu früher in unserer Beziehung und zu der Zeit, als ich Single war, aussieht. Ich dachte, der beste Weg, die Daten zu vergleichen, bestehe darin, zu schätzen, wie oft ich durchschnittlich pro Monat und für jedes Jahr meines Lebens Sex hatte. Meine Daten bis zum Alter von 24 Jahren sind 100 % korrekt. Ab 25 ist es nur eine Schätzung, aber ich kann ziemlich gut schätzen. Was denken Sie? Ist meine Erfahrung typisch? Gibt es junge Leute, die sich das ansehen und Angst vor der Zukunft haben?
Hintergrund: Ich bin ein 40-jähriger heterosexueller Mann, 5’11,5"Als Erwachsener wog ich zwischen 150 und 195 Pfund, normalerweise jedoch zwischen 170 und 180 Pfund. Mein Fitnessniveau begann mit 18 als überdurchschnittlich, stieg mit 27 Jahren deutlich über dem Durchschnitt an und sank dann im Alter von 35 Jahren wieder auf überdurchschnittlich, wo es auch bleibt. Ich glaube, dass ich optisch wahrscheinlich über dem Durchschnitt bin, aber in Sachen Charisma unter dem Durchschnitt. Ich habe einen Bachelor-Abschluss in Ingenieurwissenschaften und einen guten Job. Wir sind nicht reich genug, um ein Kindermädchen zu haben, aber um Geld müssen wir uns auch keine Sorgen machen.
Wesentliche Ereignisse, die die Daten beeinflussen:
-Erste Freundin im Alter von 25,5 Jahren, was etwa 7 Monate dauerte
-War mit mehr als einem Dutzend Frauen im Alter von 26 bis 28 Jahren zusammen, darunter zwei recht erfolgreiche FWB-Beziehungen im Alter von 27 und 28 Jahren, allerdings gab es auch Durststrecken.
-Ich habe meine Frau kurz vor meinem 29. Geburtstag kennengelernt
-Verheiratet im Alter von 33 Jahren
-Erstes Kind im Alter von 34 Jahren
– Zweites Kind im Alter von 37 Jahren
Quelle: Ich
Verwendete Tools: Excel
Von Golding666
38 Kommentare
This can’t be true because only virgins use Excel for plotting!
Well, that was a short peak…
Those peak years are insane numbers.
My peak was probably late teens and I dont think I would have ever gone past 20 a month, even 15 a month isnt a certainty.
Before I read the full post I said to myself „I see they had a baby at age 34“
I’d suggest using a line graph!
3rd child and youll have no need for a chart
0.08 at 23
„My data to 24 is 100% accurate“
Yeah, so the 0.08 is how deep you where „in“ ?
Instead of caluclating the decrease in sex maybe you should be discussing how to increase intimacy (whether it be by sex or not) as well as increasing sexual satisfaction for both partners
(Even if it means using communications, scenarios, aides, that you hadn’t previously considered)
Are you satisfied with this frequency currently? If not, what do you wish it was and what have you tried to do to fix it?
Any regrets having kids?
It is insane how having a child leads to so many dead bedrooms. From nearly once-per-day, to once a month. Your situation is not unique, unfortunately.
Hmm, I’m 45M and having the most sex I’ve ever had. But then again, I wasn’t that sexually active until my 40’s, mostly due to low self esteem.
This one post could convince thousands of people that all of their preconceived notions about Reddit are true
Per this chart, I just past my prime boys
I’ll be 50 next year, married at 26, two kids are 19 and 21, this chart is accurate, other than the almost every day when you we 29 and 30, you animal.
The Data pesentation ist not too beautuful, but absolutely fits the needs, and I’m thankful for the insight in your sex life. Interesting and I can relate to it, esp. to a drop after kids (but I think you dropped too low and for too long, discuss with spouse!)
I saw that distinct drop and thought ‚oh they had kids‘
Lol you monthly data looks like my yearly data, except after 32 it went back to zero
Correct to say that you lost your virginity at 23, had sex once then? And then nothing for 2 years. Curious to understand the late start and the 2 year gap between popping your cherry and becoming more sexually active.
I knew the drop was either end of a relationship or a kid. Happy to hear it was the latter
>My data up to age 24 is 100% accurate.
You mean the one time you had sex prior to that? 😏
>From 25 on it’s just an estimate, but I’m pretty good at estimating.
In other words this is completely subjective „data“. At a minimum, you should ask your wife to estimate the numbers for your time together to see how closely they match, so the data is at least based on more than one person’s recollection.
I didn’t realize I had kids. I wonder where they are?
3.5 is like 68? ( You suck my dick and I owe you 1.) 🙂
Edit: I know that is a monthly average.
20+ times a month for 3 years… damn man, by any chance you were in prison with your wife during that time?
Coming from someone about the same age, that 0.5 times per month is still nothing to sneeze at.
Fingers crossed for a bimodal distribution
alright what happned in 23? a one night stand?
So the vast majority of your data is self reported estimates…?
Very interesting! Thank you for sharing ☺️
I can see that a couple of other people have made suggestions along these lines, but it is something I feel strongly about so here goes: Would this graph look different if it charted ‚Moments spent enjoying my partner’s company on a emotionally intimate, platonic level‘?
My perspective as someone who has been in one relationship most of my life is that sex will end – whether because of kids or age or who knows what else might happen. I don’t know if you came here looking for advice, but in case you were – I suggest you try to remember what else you were getting out of your partnership and find a way to make those things happen more often.
Once the third child arrives you’ll go into negative territory.
0.08, please enlighten us my friend.
What kind of outlier is this?
Can I ask what qualifies as 0.5 please?
.8? Like third base? Just oral?
As an asexual person for me, it’s 0 (26M). But it’s interesting to see others are having fun 😄
Yikes. I’m 38, and we average 12-15 times a month.
You’re telling me you had sex nearly every day for 2 years straight?
You should see mine. 0 0 0 0 0…
Those are some epic statistics there in your early 30s.