Reese Witherspoon sagt, das moderne Dating sei durch den Niedergang der Rom-Coms beeinträchtigt worden: „Wo wir soziale Dynamiken gelernt haben“
https://people.com/reese-witherspoon-says-modern-dating-has-been-hurt-by-the-decline-of-rom-coms-11842275
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> Witherspoon added, „And then every once in a while, you get a great friendship. I don’t know what it is, but I do think these 10 to 15 years where the internet started, social media started, and then we stopped… We started going, ‚rom-coms are cringey,‘ but it was actually where we learned social dynamics. From Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan.“
WTF 80s and 90s rom-coms are full of the cringiest and creepiest shit passed off as romantic
It’s where we all learned to set completely unrealistic expectations for how our life would go and what a partner needs to bring to the table. It’s as bad as internet porn in that regard.
she is right! Along Came Polly taught me a lot about toilet etiquette during a date
The world is burning because they aren’t making movies that I normally star in
Sweet Home Alabama was about the social dynamics of being really into the Confederacy.
Considering she’s currently single and twice divorced, I’m not sure she learned the right things from romantic comedies, much less the ones she’s acted in.
I’m pretty sure we learned social dynamics by… being social. Now that we’re all locked into our screens, we don’t socialize.
One of the dumber things she’s said
Oh you mean where we were taught that if boy or man pesters you enough you’ll eventually “give him a chance” that he feels entitled to? Or where we learned that women nag & guys are just innocent goof balls?
Rom-coms are most of the reason our modern social dynamics are so fucked up in the first place.
We all used to moan in diners like Meg Ryan
90’s rom coms tought me exactly how not to date, lol.
Naaa modern dating has been hurt by the declining social spaces where you can meet people on an even playing field and actually have a chat. Go to a pub or a club and it will have deafening music and most of them are fairly dark. The goal there isn’t to be a place to enjoy yourself it is a place to not interact and drink. You meet people only really in work nowadays, through friends or through dating apps. The pool shrinks and it becomes really frustrating when looking for someone who is a good fit.
I feel like that just shows how out of touch celebrities can be. She thinks that most people learn their social dynamics from television and movies, most of us learned our social dynamics from the real world.
I feel like she just told us all A LOT about herself there…
That’s insane. Romcoms are fun entertainment but they are fantasies that far too many people internalize. Nobody should be taking romance advice or cues from romcoms.
She’s crazy, those movies put unrealistic expectations on love and relationship on society, that one thinks that can fill fantasies because it’s exhausting.
umm i dunno, even though modern dating culture is far from great saying it is learned from rom coms seems exceedingly self important (no idea if she was in one though)
I mean until there’s a decent argument to be had against transactional dating, that’s gonna continue to be the norm
I think its more of a comment about how before the internet was HUGE HUGE (modern social media), we all generally had a social collective that we drew from – like did you all see that new episode of chappelles show? There was only one way to see it, at a certain time generally. It was easier in a sense for „cohesion“, but now its fragmented just like how the human population is anyways.
Lmao, Disney movies and romcoms are what fuel unrealistic expectations
The social dynamic rom-coms taught people was: “There are silly lady movies made for ladies, and you fellas sometimes have to score some points with your lady by sitting through one. You won’t like it. You aren’t supposed to.”
Then there was the opposite side of the coin for macho action movies or gross-out comedies.
Across genres, modern movies have become more gender-neutral in their target audiences, and that’s a good thing. I’m not nostalgic for the days of going to the theater and having to choose between “Man Movie 2: The Reckoning” and “Lady Movie: An Autumn to Remember”.
I THINK what she means is that the genre didn’t continue to establish updated social dynamics for the time and instead just died off largely. Those things were much less cringey at the time and didn’t continue to push things in a better direction as an example for the masses.
Hard pass. Those movies are 2 hour sexual assault PSAs
I was talking with a friend about modern romcoms about our issues with them.
She mentioned how a lot of them rarely scratch the surface of how dating is now and those that do, don’t often get as much spotlight. I have an issue with the lack of chemistry reads. Just because you put two good looking people on screen together, doesn’t mean there’s going to be chemistry. Yes they’re actors and it’s their job but sometimes people just don’t click that way. Sometimes, I don’t even think they take the time to try to build it in a professional way so we the audience can buy into it.
To Reese’s point, I’d say the correlation with romcoms and modern dating is that I think some people go into it thinking it’s going to be sparks flying right away like they do in most romcoms. When I think chemistry for most people can take time to build but we live in an instant gratification society. We can get devastated over someone not texting back right away or not liking something we posted and think we did something wrong. Plus, many of us carry a lot of pain and it’s hard to let new people into our lives whether that be in person or online. Yet, we want closeness without the unpredictability that relationships can have. It’s all contrasting and frustrating lol.
I feel like this is probably more of a puff statement than honest.
Feels a little like „I need more jobs guys“
This woman is an idiot.
“Do you know who I am?”
I dunno. Most romcoms seemed to involve an horny dude with a woman who eventually gives in…
I think it’s more a problem because it’s no longer obvious what to watch together
I miss good rom coms, but let’s be real, a lot of the rom coms of the 80s and 90s did not put forward healthy portrayals of dating/relationships. Most of the really famous ones like Sleepless in Seattle and You’ve Got Mail involved really creepy behavior like stalking and straight up lying. Even one of my favorites, Say Anything, revolves around a guy who won’t let go after the girl breaks up with him, and it works! That’s not an acceptable social dynamic.
I’d like to hear from the actors who played the „less attractive but funny friend cheering the lead on“ on the topic, actually.
People stare at screens and phones and don’t know how to talk to real people. It’s that simple.
Nooooooope. No way, rom-coms make people weird.
Rom coms certainly skewed my view of relationships tho lol
If you are getting dating advice and cues from movies . . .
ITT: A lot of people that also complain about Disney princesses.
This was not the move she thought it was
Fuck you, that is insane
It’s not the lack of crappy movies, it’s the toxicity of people staring at their socials for three quarters of a day.
St Elmo’s fire may not be a rom com but if you are basing how you handle social dynamics and take dating advice from that movie that is a massive yikes.
Reese witherspoon might need to stop talking then lol
Is she nuts? Right … rom-coms, where we learned that men wearing women down by not listening to their “no” and basically stalking them until they said “yes” was romantic. Where we were taught to romanticize complicated men, and taught that bad boys just needed a good girl to reform them. What a joke.
And I learn sex from porn, driving from fast and furious and friendship from american pie.
I’m pretty sure half the point of Don Jon is that those movies are bullshit.