„Ich habe einen DNA-Test gemacht, um meine Familie aufzuspüren – das hat mein Leben zerstört“
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ce3kv2zl48po
Von Ill-Pressure-9181
„Ich habe einen DNA-Test gemacht, um meine Familie aufzuspüren – das hat mein Leben zerstört“
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ce3kv2zl48po
Von Ill-Pressure-9181
21 Kommentare
I took one without doing any research because I was adopted and I simply wanted to know where I was from.
Turns out the bit i didn’t know was it actually links you up with relatives and i now have a first cousin in Canada who i occasionally chat to.
I’d never even thought about tracing my mother or father. There was zero emotional need on my part and hardly ever in my life had I given them a thought. But the other thing i found out was that my birth mother had died 20 years ago.
Following his father’s death in 2022, John from East Sussex said his wife bought him a family DNA testing kit as a Christmas present to cheer him up.
But when the results came back, he found out his dad was not his biological father and he was, in fact, the son of a family friend.
How did he this find out ,without testing everyone involved?
This is not a unique story. There are a significant number of people who have a different father than the one on their birth certificate. That’s why genealogy should always be taken with a grain of salt – if you go back many generations there’s a good chance of a ‚break‘ in the family history.
My gran had her father narrowed down to two men (a father and son)
Most of her brothers and sisters had similar issues with parentage. They joked they were just a bunch of bastards.
Suffice to say great grandma got around a bit in her day.
Radio 4 had a great series on about this last year I think.
Lots of situations just like this.
With how often this happens we should just do it at birth honestly, means we can identify potential medical issues that run in family’s too. Up to the „parents“ to work out what they want to do with everything else that comes after.
When you think about it contraception and termination are only modern developments. If we all went back far enough we would find something like this in our own family history.
Sadly it will be the case that many babies were born as the result of abuse so even if they had the sceince back then a lot of women wouldn’t want to know either way who their babies father was.
I would advise any man who has even the slightest doubt about the paternity of his child to get tested. *Especially* if the relationship ends and he is expected to pay child support. Imagine spending up to 18 years paying a chunk of your income every month to a woman for child support when there’s another guy out there who probably doesn’t know he’s a father and is paying nothing.
The problem is that when you insist on it you’re basically accusing the mother of being a cheat and a liar, which isn’t exactly going to go down well…
DNA testing is banned in France, ostensibly for bioethics reasons but in reality because the entire French political class knows how messy everyone finding out actual parentage would be.
This happened to my wife. She didn’t know much about her father’s side of the family so after he died she took a DNA test to explore a bit.
Turns out she had a bunch of cousins from her *mother’s* side of the family that shouldn’t be there. After some investigation, she found out that the person she thought was her biological maternal grandfather wasn’t.
She has a bit of a…dramatic family, shall we say. Some of them are blaming my wife, when in reality the fault lies with her maternal grandmother! Unfortunately the players are all long dead.
I found my father’s family through Ancestry DNA. I did know his name but nothing else. He died in 2014 but I’ve never bothered trying to contact my half siblings.
More of interest was I’m a direct descendent of Josiah Wedgwood.
As for my mother’s side, most go back to Ireland and I can’t go back any further. The parts that don’t are of real interest to me as I’ve traced back to European Royalty and even Arabic tribes.
I was contacted by a man whose wife was the daughter of my aunts first husband, he wanted to know if my aunt and this man had had any kids, my aunts first husband was a violent man who beat my aunt so badly she needed to be hospitalized. Thankfully she was already dead when he reached out to me and I just told him they didn’t have kids and I wasn’t in contact with much of that side of the family. I really wanted to tell him the man was a monster, but I wasn’t there and it wasn’t my story to tell.
Can’t even fathom putting my heart and soul into raising „my“ child then learning you’ve actually just been babysitting for your cheating partner and the bloke who shagged her.
There was a radio series called The Gift which was all about people who wished they hadn’t been tested
I keep considering this due to my adoption. My biilogical mum doesn’t want anything to do with me yet had a child both before and after me – both of which she kept whereas I was given up. I know exactly where shes lives (approximately 1 mile away) and I was also able to find out my younger half brother has a complete ancestry account….
Forever mulling it over as to whether or not I do it. I don’t really want my DNA in the hands of a private company selling it off to god knows who though – call me paranoid but I don’t trust it.
I was gifted a DNA test, nope that was dropped off at the charity shop quick smart.
I was a regular at the wank bank as a student and dont want that catching up with me.
Mandatory DNA at birth, if the man present isn’t the father then it should be reflected on the birth certificate.its not fair mums lie and the children pay the price and the dad’s get their life completely shattered..simple DNA test at birth will sort all of it immediately.
Wouldn’t touch these tests with a barge pole. Who knows where the data is going.
TBH DNA Testing should be absolutely mandatory in cases of any child support claim. It is suprising just how many men are named as fathers with fiscal responsibility, and further more can be devastating for the adult child later to find out that things are not what they seem. Best off all clean and above board.
Of course, there is an issue of confidentiality with a private company like Ancestry – but I’m talking about a confidential approved service to be employed.
The estimated median figure for the situation is around 4%, which equates to 1.2 million men in the UK who are bringing up children that they think are theirs, but are not.
I did an Ancestry test 3 years ago and found out Dad wasn’t my Dad. I spent the next two years nursing my bio dad in an out of of hospital, travelling 700 km per week from my city to his and back in a weekend, until he died last year. Despite getting the shit side of end of life care for a man I didn’t know, I got to know him well through this time andI now thank goodness every day I didn’t find out about him after he had passed away. PS, the flip side of losing half of my identity in one click was not fun.
Wait till you get to the Fens, shit gets absolutely wild down there.
For those who don’t know, inbreeding. So much so, that the entire area between Norfolk, Cambridge and Lincolnshire has medical understanding of it and how to address it