Remote-Arbeit kann romantische Beziehungen vor Herausforderungen stellen und manchmal die Wahrscheinlichkeit einer Trennung erhöhen. Die Studie liefert Belege dafür, dass der daraus resultierende Stress ein tiefes Gefühl der Einsamkeit hervorrufen kann, wenn Telearbeiter und ihre Partner widersprüchliche Vorstellungen über die Trennung von Arbeit und Zuhause haben.
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-Working from home can introduce unexpected challenges to romantic relationships, sometimes increasing the chances that a couple will think about breaking up. A psychological evaluation provides evidence that when remote workers and their partners have clashing ideas about keeping work and home separate, the resulting stress can foster deep feelings of loneliness. These [findings](https://doi.org/10.1002/job.70095) were recently published in the Journal of Organizational Behavior.
To understand how remote work affects couples, it helps to look at a concept known as a segmentation preference. This term describes a person’s psychological desire to protect their personal life from work-related interruptions. Some individuals have a high segmentation preference. They prefer to silence work emails after hours and keep job discussions away from the dinner table.
Other people have a low segmentation preference. They feel completely comfortable answering a quick work message while watching a movie. They might also enjoy talking about a professional project during a family lunch. Problems can arise when people with different boundary styles share a small living space.
Previous research has largely focused on how flexible work arrangements impact the individual employee. Those studies tend to view remote work as a tool that boosts job satisfaction but creates an exhausting “always on” mentality. The authors of the new paper noticed a blind spot in this existing research. They wanted to know how remote work affects the romantic partnerships that share the burden of these new daily routines.
Over the past few years the options for me as a process safety consultant have been remote working from home or travelling to cient offices often in another continent to do my job, usually for a few weeks. Guess which has a more negative impact on my relationship with my wife..
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Still beats going into the office.
I can believe it. I know many people who go the office because if they were at home their partner would ask them to help around the house more or try to interact with them during work hours
They seem to have done an okay job at linking poor work:life balance to relationship stress, but it seems like they’re sneaking in remote work as the cause of the imbalance without really justifying it.
This feels contrived and brought up through pure stubbornness and unwillingness to compromise. The amount of flexibility remote work provides supersedes this contrived scenario of two inflexible people. They likely wouldnt make it if they both had non remote schedules.
Ehhhh not buying this one chief
It can be done but from what I’ve seen there needs to be a room with a door that the working person is using. Taking over the living room for client calls doesn’t go too well
Weird. Remote work made it the best for me.
But this tells more about who people get into a relationship with.
I’m a gamer, my SO is a gamer as well. We like movies, we spent as much time as possible together. We have the same group of friends, we like almost the same things and we never get bored of eachothers. We’re already like more than 10 years together.
Set boundaries like every normal couple.
Okay, which is it? Are employees having sex on company time during remote work, or is it driving partners apart?
It’s perhaps not in this study, but I do think at least part of the RTO push is from managers who are a big deal in the office, but have unfulfilling family lives. You’re in the office, surrounded by your „friends“, people look up to you, people do what you say, unlike your ungrateful kids and miserable partner.
I’ll be honest, working from home has made it harder to separate work from off time and within my work place it’s not just me who feels that
You know what also ends relationships? Spending significant time commuting to and from work.
Kinda like how the pandemic had two outcomes for my friend/family circle. They either resolved outstanding issues in the relationship and became closer or the outstanding issues became unresolveable differences and they separated.
The benefits of remote work is that it should expedite the relationship cycle for good or worse by forcing communication. This feels like a net positive being shown as a negative.
As someone who travels for work, I knew the only way I’d be able to start a family was with a woman who works remotely.
Yeah but reduces the chances of cheating with yor co workers
I read this and think remote work doesn’t introduce challenges to relationships, but rather exposes incompatibilities within that relationship
You can accept a less ideal match when you’re guaranteed to be away from them 40-60 hours a week
What my experience has been working from home for quite some time now, is the assumption „You’re home anyway, why can’t you do this, or that.“ Wash clothes, make dinner, go shopping. I’m home anyway, right? This has been a point of contention for us at least.
Have never felt better in my relationship than when I started working fully remote. I cannot for the life of me imagine any universe in which any aspect of my life would be better working in an office.
Wife and I both wfh since COVID started, was really rough at first but now I think we both understand that while it’s work hours you can’t be upset if the other person does their own thing(even if not actively working). We’ll talk and maybe grab lunch but we’re not doing activities together. We normally reconvene at 5pm.
I mean sure, blame anything but poor work/life balance or the unrealistic expectations your company puts on you, but yea it’s the remote work.
The only couples that stay together is the couples that are separated from each for good portion of the day and stressed from the commute.
Wfh was the best time for my wife and I. It was the one time of my life where i didn’t feel like i needed to stuff money away so I could retire asap.
Then again we were both working, so we were still separated a lot during that time, just came out of our „offices“ for lunch or some quick interactions. If only one of you works or wfh then you would have to make some boundaries. But imo that’s still way better than dealing with all the time commutes and prepping lunches steals from your day.
I found out my spouse was the person in the office that takes all calls on speaker..
One lesson I learned in relationships don’t do the everything in the same places, do not eat where you rest, do not argue where you bring joy… Give everything it’s own designated space
My wife works from home and i work a 7 day roster. So on the random days i have off during the week that aren’t her weekend, i live in her office as much as she works from my home.
It’s never going to change but i hate it, and it does negatively impact our relationship. We are around each other constantly but it’s not quality time, and i often don’t feel like i can relax during my days off because I’m always aware there’s someone working in the house, so that can be quite draining.
That’s the balanced perspective for all the comments here saying only bosses think this way.
Bought and paid for science.
My partner and I have worked three feet from each other every work day for over six years.
It’s the dream. People have got to stop marrying people they hate.
Or it can make work/life a lot more manageable for people with disabilities/chronic conditions or who have dependents & also ensure opportunities are more accessible
For me personally it has been the exact opposite.
About 6 years late coming out with that report buddy.
Or when she has plans to discard you and keeps you on the hook just long enough for her to snare the guy at the next desk in the new town