Sexuelle Erregung kann zu einem „Tunnelblick“ führen, der es schwieriger macht zu erkennen, wenn jemand einfach nicht auf dich steht. Die Erkenntnisse tragen zu einem wachsenden Verständnis darüber bei, wie unsere inneren Zustände und nicht nur unsere Umstände das beeinflussen, was wir in den Menschen um uns herum wahrnehmen
https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/intimately-connected/202603/theyre-just-not-that-into-you
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What We Found
Across the first three studies, sexual arousal made participants significantly more likely to interpret ambiguous interactions optimistically. They saw interest where there was only uncertainty. Part of the reason seems to be that arousal increased the partner’s desirability, further fueling the tendency to see what people wanted to see.
However, Study 4 showed where this effect broke down: When rejection was clear and unmistakable, arousal no longer distorted perception. In fact, under clear rejection, arousal actually made the partner seem less desirable.
The takeaway
Sexual arousal distorts perception only when the situation leaves room for hope. It can help us push past the fear of rejection by tilting perception in a more hopeful direction. That may be useful in the early stages of dating, when uncertainty is everywhere. But it also comes with a risk: Desire can overshadow sensitivity to another person’s actual wishes. In those moments, we may not see the interaction as it is; we may instead see it as we hope it to be—missing the signs that the door is not actually open.
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/01461672261439417
You know what they say about anecdotes, but in my own experience this seems very accurate. Hindsight always makes me wonder how I missed the seemingly painfully obvious.
Is it only me having a Dejavu? I remember seeing the exact title yesterday.
Ok now expand the study to show that emotions in general are just meta-learning states that shape attention and information processing in an effort to predispose an individual to behaviors that are effective for solving common problems that socialized intelligent agents face.
>When rejection was clear and unmistakable, arousal no longer distorted perception. In fact, under clear rejection, arousal actually made the partner seem less desirable.
This is anecdotal but I learnt this the hard way: clear rejection == disgust. Closed off body language, polite half smiles and looking away don’t work. Negative emotions like annoyance and anger don’t work. Saying no or indicating you’re not interested only works sometimes. Yelling or insulting the person might result in an escalating and dangerous situation. Learn to show disgust on your face – it’s the most effective for snapping a harasser out of their trance. Disgust makes a harasser feel self-conscious and they are less likely to escalate a situation. They might still escalate though, so do so only if you feel safe doing so.
Is the the basis for ‚backing‘ or being a ’stan‘ of a idol? they’re trained to create this fandom base and then remove a lot of generalist crowd language, reducing it to a single person format. So it feels far more intimate
Being gay makes this like 10x harder