Ich stehe vor einer Wohnungsentscheidung in Deutschland und würde mich sehr über Ihren Rat freuen. Ich habe unten Fotos von beiden Wohnungen angehängt. Die Wohnung mit Fliesenboden liegt im belebteren Bereich (B). Die ersten drei Bilder zeigen Apartment A
Persönlicher Kontext:
Ich kämpfe oft mit Einsamkeit und habe kein starkes soziales Netzwerk. Meine Eltern sind mein wichtigster regelmäßiger sozialer Kontakt. Mir ist aufgefallen, dass Leben, Bewegung und Hintergrundgeräusche um mich herum manchmal gegen die Einsamkeit helfen können. Ich habe auch einen Hund und arbeite zeitweise von zu Hause aus.
Apartment A (kreisfreie Großstadt, 173 000 inhabitants)
Etwas weiter von der Arbeit entfernt (ca. 45-50 Minuten Fahrt mit dem Zug, 3 Tage Home-Office).
Ruhige Wohngegend mit sehr wenig Verkehr
Weniger Geschäfte/Cafés; ca. 10 Gehminuten zum nächsten Supermarkt
Balkon mit Blick ins Grüne, aber sehr weit oben – mein Hund kann kaum etwas sehen
Wichtiges Detail zu Apartment A:
Ich habe bereits eine Wohnungszusage erhalten und soll den Vertrag morgen unterschreiben. Mir gefällt die Wohnung selbst, aber ich bin unsicher, was die Gesamtsituation angeht.
Die Vermieterin ist eine über 80-jährige Frau
Die Abwicklung erfolgt ausschließlich über einen Immobilienmakler
Der Makler konnte zu einigen Punkten keine eindeutigen Antworten geben (z. B. Verteilungsschlüssel Nebenkosten, Nebenkostenabrechnungen des Vormieters)
Er sagte, der Vermieter habe ihm mitgeteilt, dass die vorherige NEbenkostenabrechnung nicht vorliegt. Keine konkreten Angaben zu Verteilungsschlüsseln oder realistische Kostenschätzungen
Mir wurde die Telefonnummer der Vermieterin mitgeteilt, sie war jedoch nicht erreichbar
Die Vertragsunterzeichnung ist für morgen geplant
Edit: Auch das ist die Küche aus Wohnung A: https://imgur.com/a/EdvsU17
Apartment B (kreisfreie Großstadt, 500 000 inhabitants)
Näher an der Arbeit (ca. 35 Minuten Fahrt mit der Bahn, 3 Tage Home-Office)
Direkt an einer vierspurigen Bundesstraße (50 km/h, Verkehr inkl. Straßenbahn)
Lärm und Luftverschmutzung
Viele Cafés, Restaurants und Geschäfte in der Nähe
Balkon liegt zur Straße hin; Mein Hund kann viel zusehen, was ihn beschäftigt
Mein Dilemma:
Apartment B ist vielleicht laut, aber möglicherweise besser für meine Einsamkeit.
Wohnung A ist ruhig und angenehm, allerdings machen mir die Abgeschiedenheit und die unklare Mietsituation Sorgen.
Was würden Sie an meiner Stelle tun?
Für welche Wohnung würden Sie sich entscheiden?
Vielen Dank für Ihre Perspektiven!
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Von Ok-Road5378
7 Kommentare
The issue isn’t the apartment. A city of 173K or 500K won’t make a difference.
It’s up to YOU to get OUT of the apartment and meet people. And you can do that in small town or a huge city. It’s actually easier in a smaller town, IMHO.
Find out if there’s a doggy park nearby. Take a VHS class for something you’re interested in. Find out if there are local bands playing in nearby clubs and go listen to them. The issue isn’t the apartment.
The one with the wire balcony is hopefully the one without the older land lady. If you can’t get in contact now, if anything goes wrong, it will be a nightmare
Did you also post on r/wohnen? Because there someone posted (roughly 7h ago) about an almost identical looking flat as apartment A.
Flat B looks awful, wouldn’t take it even if I would be paid to live there.
Anyway as to your loneliness: as the others mentioned here: nothing to do with the apartment or the city itself. You need to get out and start meeting people
I am definitely no expert when it comes to housing and apartments in Germany, especially since I am an expat myself, but I can definitely relate to what you mean. I come from a country where there are people everywhere, and I am so accustomed to a bit of background noise (hubbub, for lack of a better term) that when everything around me is completely silent and calm, I start to feel lonely and sad. I do not even have a pet like you do.
When I moved to a different town last year, I deliberately chose an apartment in the city centre, even though the rent was a bit higher, simply because I cannot live in complete silence. Sometimes I can hear the neighbours, the cars on the street in front of my building, and occasionally even drunk people late at night. But none of this feels like real “noise” to me, rather, it is a bit of commotion that signals to my brain that I am not alone.
Anyway, if I were you, I would go for apartment B, assuming there is a chance you might be offered it in the first place. The only real drawback of apartment B would be, as you mentioned, some air and noise pollution, but overall the pros outweigh those of apartment A. One thing I would strongly recommend is getting in contact with the owner. For example, my landlord is also an older guy, but he is very responsive and quickly fixes any issues that I, or anyone else in the building have. I would say make sure you get in touch with the owners before moving in, especially if the apartment does not have a Hausverwaltung or Hausmeister.
hey so I can only speak from my personal experiences but I grew up in a very rural area in Germany and moved to a bigger city two years ago because I also struggled with finding friends and getting in touch with people. Now I am currently moving back to a little village near the forest because living in that city was more than stressful. people in Germany mostly live life by themselves and are not that open so it’s not easy to make new friends here in cities and also in rural areas.I would personally choose the apartment which is more quiet because traffic can be quite a lot from Monday to Friday when nearly everybody is working. Streets are crowded and if you live near a street it could be pretty stressful but that would be my feelings about a apartment with a balcony facing the streets. 40-45 minutes to work is a lot but compared that it’s only two days a week I personally would consider this for having some quiet time when I come home but again that’s my personal opinion because I prefer peace at home and also because I have a dog that hates the city. so if you know your dog needs many input from the outside it might be better for them to live in the bigger city but yeah people are not open and it might be hard finding friends in both apartments. I don’t mean this to be rude I just want to tell you about how German people love their private life and are not that extroverted as maybe other nations so feeling lonely is pretty much normal if you don’t live in a city with people from many nations that might be more open than Germans. Did you already hear the streets from the other apartment at times where many people drive to work? If so, and it didnt bother you, you could also consider the apartment B because mostly in germany if your windows are facing the streets, the windows will be build to block noises but thats something you need to ask your landlord. Listen to you heart and ask yourself if you can deal with noises over years because in the morning and evening there will probably be lots of car noises. Or you choose the quiet area, more “walking freedom” for your dog but more work to easily get to bars. Maybe you could try apps for people looking for friends something like bumble because I know no one here in DE who is not lonely but also I know lots of people that made new friends through apps. sorry if my answer wasn’t that helpful but I wish you a good and easy time moving and that you choose the way your heart tells you
Loneliness isn’t solved by noise, loneliness is solved by connecting with other people. Which city offers better opportunities to do your hobbies and find like minded people?