Ich habe neulich einen Beitrag mit dem Titel „Ich habe ihn versetzt“ verfasst. …. Wir gerieten in einen heftigen Streit, nachdem ich ihn versetzt hatte. Ich habe ihn nie getroffen. Ich habe auch aufgehört, darüber nachzudenken, ihn zu treffen, weil er sich verrückt verhält und mich wie verrückt unter Druck setzt. Ich habe wirklich Angst vor allen. Ich habe immer wieder seltsame Accounts, die mir auf Instagram folgen. Er ist Koreaner und ich weiß, dass es bestimmte Arten von Forenseiten gibt, und ich habe Angst, dass er mich dort gepostet hat.
Ein Typ, der mir eine SMS schrieb und mir folgte, fragte mich: „Oh, bist du nicht ein Abweichler?“ und noch ein „Sie ist hübsch“. Mein Konto ist privat
Mein Ex-Freund hat mir schon einmal damit gedroht und gesagt, ich würde es verkaufen, weil es so hübsch ist. Ich mache mir im Moment große Sorgen. Ich habe meinen Benutzernamen geändert und er ist blockiert, aber ich denke immer noch, dass er mich sehen kann. Bei den Konten handelt es sich ausschließlich um koreanische männliche Sexkonten.
Der 4. bis 6. sind neu, nachdem ich mit ihm gesprochen habe, nachdem ich ihn versetzt hatte. Ich habe ihn ignoriert und er hat mir heute Morgen eine SMS über Kakao Talk geschrieben. „야“
Ich bin so krank und gestresst, dass ich nicht schlafen kann. Er hat auch völlige Wahnvorstellungen. Er denkt, ich bin mit einem Mann zusammen oder habe einen geheimen Freund. Er ist derjenige, der mich betrogen hat. Die Nacht vor Weihnachten war noch verrückter, er wollte dorthin kommen, wo ich bin, und redete verrückt. Ich erwähne, dass es kein Leben ohne mich gibt.
Ich fühlte mich so schuldig, ihn nicht getroffen zu haben, aber ich bin so erleichtert, dass ich es nicht getan habe. Ich hatte immer das Gefühl, dass er sich an mir rächen wollte. Er erwähnte, dass ich mein ganzes Gepäck zu ihm nach Hause bringe, dann kann ich mich in bequeme Kleidung umziehen und wir gehen essen.
Übrigens… ich drohe ihm, seinen Freunden zu zeigen, was für ein Mensch er ist. Ich habe nie erwähnt, dass er seine Fotos oder Videos an irgendjemanden verschickt oder verkauft. Aber das würde ich niemals tun. Es war einfach nur gesagt. Aber ich glaube, er verschickt meine persönlichen Sachen auf einer Forenseite oder an andere Leute. Ich bin mir nicht sicher, aber ich habe Angst. Ich denke darüber nach, meine Konten zu löschen. Ich möchte auch nicht, dass das zur Polizei geht. Ich möchte einfach so gut wie möglich damit umgehen.
Gibt es einen Rat? Gibt es Unterstützung? Meinung..?
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Why do you not want to report this to the police?
Please go to the police. Report it. For the future at least.
Omg hes such a pathetic loser. Like ok u send ur nudes to ur literal bf, but posting it without consent is a crime
Go talk to the police. Based on the texts from your crazy ex, I assume you speak Korean? If you don’t, some law firms offer English counsel.
1345 is a hotline for foreigners that require aid.
I haven’t seen your other post, but I’m assuming you’re freaking out based on your post. Keep calm.
Do not meet with him, do not provoke him over text, and keep a pdf copy of all the threats that he made.
Is there a reason why you don’t want to go to police about it? Because while I don’t know the full situation, it seems like he’s virtually stalking/harassing you, and threatening to release explicit content of you if you don’t comply to his will (Black mail). If you don’t want to go to the police, is there a pro-bono lawyer you can talk to about this situation?
I’m not in Korea myself, so I’m not going to be a much of help. Hopefully someone else can chime in. In the mean time, block him on everything, and ideally cut off everything from social media if it causes you mental stress until things die down. I’m sorry you’re going through this. Hang in there, OP.
The only suitable advice anybody can give at this stage is to make sure you’re safe, and to go to the police. If either of those things poses a problem post again
Definitely go to the police
You absolutely need to go to the police :/ remember to save everything, and make all phone calls record automatically. If you’re not in Korea… I think you might need to use consular services or reach out to your local police so they can liaise with Korean police. Good luck 🙁
Not legal advice, but I’d definitely be surprised if this wasn’t a crime.
Block them. Do not answer stranger!! I do not get why you are scared, Korean know crimes in Korea so why you are scared. (Posting nude photo is crime). Do not text or speak with strangers!! No one can hurt you if you did not do crime. I went to court and won the case, (my landlord didnot give my deposit back). If they go to report you, he should pay court fee!! You think he will pay 70K won for this? No. So do not woory and ignore them from now. Even if you go to court, you report it to your embessy, they will send lawyer
Just out of curiosity, why is that guy using such broken Korean?
Report him ASAP with all the evidence you have. Why would someone who is publishing your personal picture just be free without facing repercussions for his actions? Also, change your phone number so you don’t have to deal with his bs.
Just call the Police. They do have English interpreters available when you call 112 (the emergency number). Just going straight to a police station with a friend who speaks Korean, or contacting the Sunflower Center (they specialize in sexual violence support and have English-speaking staff: hotline 1366, or check their website).
If you’re worried, you can also reach out to your embassy first—they can accompany you or help translate. Don’t let fear stop you. reporting it is important for your safety and might prevent it happening to others. Stay safe.
That is in Kakaotalk. Text message in Kakaotalk is enough proof for the police to act. Go to your nearest police station and seek help
Go to the police show the messages
Literally why are you asking this on Reddit go to the police
If you happen to live in Seoul, maybe you can ask for help here: http://www.onseoulsafe.kr/load.asp?subPage=710
or maybe here: https://d4u.stop.or.kr
It’s run by the city/government and they offer legal aid, counseling service, and removal services
I hope for the best OP. This is disgusting and should never happen to anyone. I would contact them first before reporting the police since you’ll get a lot of support.
1. Gather as much data as you can about his abusive behavior. Make sure to download all your conversations in verifiable file types. If he was physically abusive and you have photos, hospital records etc. those help. Any or all voice recordings, too. He is clearly blackmailing.
2. Look up law firms. The pricing may be intimidating but there are tons that give free counsel. There should be firms that specialize in these kinds of cases. Even just having the business card of a lawyer helps immensely when talking to the police. The lawyer may also give you advice about what to talk about.
3. Go to the police. There are certain stations that are better suited for these cases. If you are worried about your Korea, ask a friend who is fluent in Korean to accompany you. Mention you have a lawyer as well. Police get much more attentive when they know you have legal counsel.
Korea really cracks down hard on the illegal, involuntary distribution of female content with nudity.
경찰에 신고하세요. 스토킹은 심각한 범죄입니다.
Thank you for everyone who is helping me and sending me information. I really don’t know how any of this works but thank you. I will go to the police and see what happens. Honestly I’ve been scared to leave the accommodation. I feel like he’s everywhere. I will do my best. Thank you.
Report to the police right now. This is considered serious crime in Korea and I am sure you will be protected with extra patrol in your area
Report to the police immediately as <cyber crime>.
https://ecrm.police.go.kr/minwon/main
If you can’t speak Korean and that interferes with the process (I don’t know if it’s the case). I might be able to help with reporting.
If you actually threatened him that you are gonna tell his friend he’s a jerk, it has possibility of 협박죄/threat crime. which could actually make you be sued.
Why this is just ‘possibility’, of course a judge decides whether that is a crime or self-defend.
I’m not a lawyer nor any job related to court/law/immigrations but, I recommend go to police/immigration center/or your embassy,consulate and ask them for help or an advice about the ‘possibility’ of problem to your visa, and getting sued. (disregarding they are supposed to help this kind of problem,) big police stations do have lawyers. I’m a Korean and I called my embassy when I have argue with landlord about deposit. I don’t know your nation’s embassy is willing to help those problem, well I recommend to give it a try.
I.. understand your fear that police would stand with him just bcuz you are foreigner. I cannot sure they won’t. however, also Korea is very sensitive to sexual crime done especially to female by male. many false accusations are written on news, and those has been as a mayor gender issue in last 5-6 years.
hope you recover your peace soon.
꼭 신고 바랍니다. 사이버 범죄신고는 비교적 간단합니다. 그가 한국인인지 아니면 외국인인지는 모르겠지만, 지금 행동으로는 충분히 접근금지 등의 법적 효력이 가능할 듯 보입니다.
Please go to the local police station, show them these images, they will allot you with someone who speaks English… Generally, Police takes these things seriously, they don’t normally takes side with someone just because the other person is Korean… Take advice from them and stay safe
Just take it to a law firm.
Hes blackmailing. Simple as that. They’ll generally back off.
This is crime
I’m Korean. You have a duty to yourself and potential future victims to report this. There are free legal counselling available to cases like this, and for foreigners as well (which is specified by law). he commited an illegal act (I think 통신매체이용음란죄) which could probably place him on a sex offenders list