Als Mädchen, das sich normal kleidet (nicht wahnsinnig bescheiden oder offen), werde ich von den Männern hier in Baku angestarrt (glaube nicht, dass sie Knie vor 🥀🥀🥀 gesehen haben. Jeder Mann auf der Straße wird schamlos starre, bis ich sie endlich bestanden habe und nicht aus dem Augenleer bin – wer sagte ihnen, starr zu starren, ist in Ordnung?
Und bevor alle sagen: „Es ist die Kultur Bla Bla Bla“, in den sowjetischen Zeiten würden alle Frauen 60er -Jahre -Miniröcke und Kleider tragen. Haben wir also so viel zurückgegangen? Selbst vor 20 Jahren würden viele Menschen keine Hose in der Hitze erzwingen. Selbst wenn wir bescheidener geworden sind und ich anders aussehe, ist es immer noch verrückt, 10 Minuten lang eine junge Frau an zu starren.
Zweitens ist die Doppelmoral zwischen Männern und Frauen verrückt. Die Frauen streben eindeutig nach einem unrealistischen Schönheitsstandard und sind im Allgemeinen sehr „Baximli“, während die Männer buchstäblich wie das Foto aussehen, das ich angehängt habe, lol. Was in Ordnung ist, aber der Doppelstandard ist riesig; Auch wenn es in anderen Ländern eins gibt, ist es nicht so extrem.
Zuletzt denken die Männer hier, dass sie dem schwachen Geist einer Frau so überlegen sind. Sogar Dinge, die ich kenne, sind kulturell, aber dennoch sehr irritierend, wie Männer und Frauen, die bei großen Versammlungen getrennt sitzen, als wären ihre Gespräche zu ernst und unsere betreffen nur „weibliche Dinge“, sind seltsam, IMO. So viele weitere Beispiele, aber ich kann mir jetzt nicht alle vorstellen.
Haftungsausschluss: Dies ist für die aserbaidschanischen Männer nicht hassen, sondern einfach die Gesellschaft, die unfaire Standards vorantreibt. Diese Männer haben offensichtlich auch viele gute Eigenschaften !! + ärgern
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Von pinky9021O
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LMAOOOO this is so funny, but I completely agree with what you’re saying.
The other day I went to a wine bar in baki with my sister, I was wearing a long skirt and top, she was wearing trousers and a top, both quite modest – firstly there was men everywhere which is so good I love seeing young people out and about enjoying the night but omg we felt so out of place, we were being stared at by various groups the ENTIRE NIGHT and on the way home.
The only girls / ladies there were (i assume) there with husbands or boyfriends so that double standard is still there even though it’s generally a lot better now. We definitely were a bit uncomfortable but anyway. Even if they don’t mean it in a bad way the staring and whispering is very intense lol.
Ooga booga
Me try explain this unpleasantness to you
Something rare/uncommon = something interesting
Something interesting = your brain: hmm let me check that out.
However what is something interesting/rare/uncommon in this context you may question?
HMMMM let us guess!
Maybe, but maybe someone who dresses however they please in a country where even talking to your second grade family member consider as sex?
I feel offended…
Unfortunately, what you describe is a common problem in conservative societies like Azerbaijan. Men grow up without proper interaction with women and end up having their view of women confined to the individuals in their family. As the conservative Azerbaijani family structure expects women to dress modestly, outliers are perceived as *“yüngül əxlaqlı”* women. This kind of perception provides justification for them to be rude toward women who don’t fit into the *“əxlaqlı qadın”* norms in their mindset.
On the other hand, with minimal knowledge about women, such men learn how to communicate with them through movies and TV shows, where women are often portrayed as inferior beings controlled by toxic masculine characters.
If you ask me, I would include a subject in the curriculum to teach students (both girls and boys) how to approach the opposite sex—how to interpret the cues of women and men. Due to a lack of interaction with women, some men interpret even a kind gesture or a smile as a sign of willingness for an intimate relationship. Unfortunately, neither society nor the education system is aware of the seriousness of this issue.
To be honest, I wear what I want, sometimes both women and men look at me, I see „judgement“ in their stares, but I know there is nothing wrong with my outfits. If everyone wear what they want, they’ll probably stop, I guess.
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„Each man on the street will stare shamelessly until I’ve finally passed them and am out of their eyeline—who told them staring is okay?“ – This is not okay, of course. And, everyone should know this by now.
„back in Soviet times, all the women would wear 60s mini skirts and dresses, so have we just regressed that much?“ – Could you please tell me how you got this reference, have you lived through those times? And, do you think everyone in the country (especially outside Baku) would wear 60s mini skirts and dresses? If you think about these questions, you would understand what I mean. While the situation in Baku probably was different, overall in the country, I would say it was worse than today. So, I don’t think we regressed but the things in Baku have changed.
„The women clearly strive for an unrealistic beauty standard“ – I think it is their personal choice, no one pushes anyone to wear a make-up every day, even to the groceries. I think women do it to themselves.
„while the men literally look like the photo I attached, lol“ – a person sees what they want to see.
„but the double standard is HUGE“ – I agree that society is unfair to women with a lot of expectations as a mother, as a wife, as a daughter… It is really a lot. However, same things can be said for men as well: we need to do military service at least for a year, have a house, decent income, and the list goes on. So, it is not really a double standard. Life sucks for everyone:)
„Lastly, men here think they are so superior to the feeble mind of a woman ☠️☠️. Even things which I know are cultural but nevertheless very irritating, such as men and women sitting apart at large gatherings as though their conversations are too serious and ours concern only “female things,” are weird, imo. So many more examples, but I can’t think of them all now.“
— This is an old generation thing, and Azerbaijan is not the only place where men of old generation think like this.
I really hope that one day things get better for everyone. However, your prejudiced statement about Azerbaijani men also felt unfair:) Not everyone is the same, and believe me not everyone is bad, actions of some individuals do not say anything about me, my friends, and others.
it really depends where you are and what time, woman are respected and protected no man can swear or raise a hand at them because it is too unmanly and no people talk. i really think you got surrounded by 30-60 year olds to feel that way and where did you feel the most uncomfortness. I’m sorry for that