Singles sagen uns, wie sich die politische Geschlechterlücke auf ihr Dating -Leben auswirkt: „Ich würde nicht mit jemandem ausgehen, der konservativ abstimmt“
https://www.thestar.com/life/singles-tell-us-how-the-political-gender-gap-is-impacting-their-dating-lives-i-would/article_1e6d09ec-4e16-4f57-8e04-4c537d93a6d8.html
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The growing gender divide in political ideology poses very significant challenges for our demographics. Young liberal women will be less inclined to form relationships with young conservative men, potentially leading to fewer partnerships and a decline in birth rates. If this trend continues, we could see our already dangerously low fertility rate drop even further, possibly below 1.0 in the near future.
Such a substantial decline in birth rates would bring about serious societal challenges, the most pressing being the need to drastically increase immigration rates to sustain population growth and economic stability.
Making wide generalizations here, but I would say in my opinion and own limited experience, at least two things are true:
‘Conservative’ men are much more likely to be willing to date more ‘liberal’ women than the other way around
I think liberals nowadays are more prone to perceive more centre attitudes, or someone that holds only one or two ‘conservative’ beliefs as a ‘full’ conservative
I would further challenge people on either ‘side’ who would not consider dating someone from the other ; what are the individual beliefs or traits you are actually opposed to? Does this person actually subscribed to those individual beliefs or not?
For example, I know a lot of young women (understandably) feel very strongly about abortion. But a pretty substantial number of young men do not support restricting abortion, including ones who you might consider ‘conservative’ for other reasons. And I’m sure there’s other examples the other way around.
Why would progressive women want to date anyone who doesn’t respect them or their rights?
I drove a friend to get an abortion years ago. What they seemed most afraid of was that their boyfriend would find out and how they would react.
>“I would not date anybody who votes Conservative. That’s a huge turn-off for me,” she said. “Political views are someone’s values. As individuals, there would be a contrast in how we go about our lives.”
I have two daughters. Neither of them would date anyone who would seek to define what *women* can and cannot wear, what sort of contraception they have available, what media they consume, who they date, or what colour their hair is. We’ve been open with them about what sort of challenges they face in a world that has, historically and globally, maligned and mistreated women.
They can easily and quickly identify men that will *waste their time.*
>“I’m always open to having conversations and seeing where people stand because I don’t want people to judge me and assume all my position points if I say I’m Conservative,” Bruce said. “I believe two people can have different politics, but they need the same values. Often, however, those are synonymous.”
My dude, you’ve aligned yourself with a group and that will come with *valid assumptions about your values*.
>“A couple of [romantic] interactions I had over text ended abruptly once I said I was Conservative. Some people can’t see past a title and don’t even care to delve into beliefs.”
If the title does not indicate beliefs then the title is *meaningless*. I suspect what he means is that while he holds beliefs many prospective partners find repugnant, he feels they should overlook them.
The question conservative men have to ask themselves is what are they offering to improve the lives of women, that progressive men **cannot**? At this moment, it’s not much. They aren’t offering a better world for women, they are, at best, offering aligned bigotry. Eg, maybe they have a shared value in blaming our housing crisis and income disparity on a convenient scapegoat, like immigrants.
What I hear from my single friends who are female, many of whom have also given up on dating, is that conservative men *want a servant*. They’re looking for someone to cook meals, clean their house, and treat them like *Kings*.
The problem for such men is that we’re a nation where women have ample opportunity to succeed on their own. *Women no longer need to debase themselves into a life of subjugation* in Canada. For the most part. That’s why equality *feels like* they’ve lost something; because they have, they’ve lost the opportunity to live in a society where women must subject themselves to such conditions in order to have a roof and three meals.
>“As soon as you move in together and questions about who does what at home, who pays for what, what to spend money on, when and how to get married, and if and how to raise kids come to the table, your political differences become much clearer than they did when you were dating.“
Ironically, in many ways my wife is much more conservative than I am. She holds, frankly, much more bigoted views on religion and culture than I do. But ultimately we align on *not seeing women as objects* and *believing women should have the same opportunities as men* and *women deserve body autonomy* and similar.
After meeting a girl for the first time she said something along the lines of trump has done more for the country than anyone else and that was it for me
it is truly striking how thoroughly framing from the American culture war has been grafted onto the Canadian context despite the obvious incongruency between the Republican party and the CPC