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  1. I’ve linked to the news release in the post above. In this comment, for those interested, here’s the link to the peer reviewed journal article:

    https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2025-07480-001?doi=1

    From the linked article:

    Democrats rarely have Republicans as romantic partners and vice versa, study finds

    An analysis of data from multiple studies in the United States revealed that politically dissimilar couples are very rare. The share of couples where one partner supported the Democratic Party while the other supported the Republican Party was only 8%. Political dissimilarity with a romantic partner was most frequent among supporters of Independents, with around 44% of Independents having a partner who supported either the Democratic or Republican Party. The paper was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

    The results showed that romantic relationships between politically dissimilar individuals were very rare. Over 80% of both Democrats and Republicans had a partner who supported the same political party. When the partner did not support the same party, there were somewhat more Republicans with a partner supporting Independents than those whose partner was a Democrat. Among Democrats with a politically dissimilar partner, that partner was almost twice as likely to be a supporter of Independents rather than Republicans.

    Overall, around 6% of participating Democrats had a partner who was a Republican, while around 8% of participating Republicans had a partner who was a Democrat. Supporters of Independents were the most likely to be in politically dissimilar relationships, with only 59% of them having a partner who also supported Independents.

  2. HoopsMcCann69 on

    The last date I had before I met my now fiancee thought that white people are the “actual” oppressed people in the US. I told her that it was a white nationalist talking point, paid for the check and swore off dating any right wing women after that

  3. Diavolo_Rosso_ on

    I imagine most people marry those with whom they share values so… yeah.

  4. My wife and I are part of the 8%. She is the Republican although she shouldn’t be.

  5. Actual_Intercourse on

    One interpretation of this is: compassionate people rarely want to be in relationships with those who entirely lack compassion

  6. HyslarianBitRot on

    I wonder if relationship satisfaction compared to homo-political identity and hetero-political identities in relationship also differs.

    Like election years must cause some strain in the relationship.

  7. It’s called “being unequally yoked.” Best to avoid those political topics bc (I’m told) I can’t resist screaming and spitting food at her.

    I had to finally say, two weeks ago, “you know it’s not looking good for your guy, right?”

  8. FacelessFellow on

    Once party respects gays and the other party openly hates gays.

    It’s a clear distinction. Hate/respect.

  9. Sweet-Sale-7303 on

    Only 525 couples out of 334 million people? How is that study valid. I am in NY on long island and the average thing here for boomers is republican husband and democrat wife. Usually, the wife ends up too scared to admit they vote Democrat in front of the husband. I think the 8 percent quoted in this study is wrong.

  10. PaulOshanter on

    It could also be that couples who start off as representing different political parties drift towards the side of whoever is more outspoken over time. This is anecdotal but my father was never a very political or religious person while my mom definitely was, over the years he became more religious to appease her which also greatly affected his choice of friends and media.

  11. agentkolter on

    Makes sense. I might have been able to date someone who was a Republican 20 years ago, but not today. I couldn’t respect the opinion of someone who supports and defends Donald Trump. I want a partner who shares my values.

  12. molten_dragon on

    My parents were part of the 8% for decades. My dad flipped parties about 20 years into their marriage though.

  13. AsyncOverflow on

    Political affiliation is highly correlated with a lot of demographics that are also correlated with finding romantic partners.

    The biggest one being location and age.

  14. Avarria587 on

    Given the ever-increasing political ideology divide from men and women, this finding is interesting, to say the least.

  15. I walked out on a blind date with one of Marco Rubio’s campaign workers. She tried to explain to me that you could support a person while being against their policies.

    I tried (failed) to explain to her that politicians should be judged ONLY by their policies.

  16. JimBeam823 on

    It used to not be this way. Politics were a non-issue in romantic relationships and plenty of people split their tickets.

    What has happened is that our political divide has become a basically a low level ethnic/sectarian conflict. Our parties are two entirely different cultures with entirely different values and different visions about what the country should be.

  17. Realistic-Minute5016 on

    “Studies also indicate that people are less likely to be married to someone supporting a different political party compared to 50 years ago.”

    This is another unfortunate side effect of politics as entertainment. Non-stop news and political media have had to fill their airtime with *something* and actual politics, things like debates on water usage and block grants, while extremely important, are incredibly boring to most people. So instead these “entertainers” created caricatures of the opposition to fill the air time because hey, who doesn’t hate a good villain, especially after the Soviet Union left the picture. So now we get media pushing us to the extremes because it riles up our emotions and gives us those endorphins we crave.

  18. My partner is a Republican and I am a Democrat. It has been 5+ years and has caused no issues. Both of us are moderates, so that probably helps.

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