Verhaltensforscher haben herausgefunden, dass Menschen mit wirklich starken Denkweisen sich selbst nicht sagen, dass sie positiv sein sollen – sie haben gelernt, ihre Gedanken zu beobachten, ohne sich mit ihnen zu identifizieren, ein Unterschied, den die meisten Menschen nie verstehen.
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Mindfulness. Observer.
Omg this is totally me like what?
My mental health providers call this insight
>Someone who has learned cognitive defusion experiences the same thought, but with a subtle and crucial difference. They notice it. “Oh, there’s that thought again. The not-good-enough one.” They can see it without becoming it. The thought is still there. But it doesn’t run the show.
I tend to compartmentalize a lot of things. Even self doubt. If I can’t do something about an issue, I put it away in a box until I can. If I am feeling insecure, I can put that away too.
I don’t know if its the same as this study and its not always a good thing for me.
Yeah, you’re not your inner voice, you’re the one that hears it. Therefore, you can choose how you relate to that voice.
I learned to do this last summer. I was meditating and observing my internal state. I watched it change from neutral to strongly anxious within minutes, for no apparent reason. Made me realize that my body and mind are sometimes just playing with me. I would think badly because I was in a bad state. When you go looking for enemies where there are none, you find enemies where there are none.
This is a blog post with no new research, why is this here?
“Don’t believe everything you think.”
This sounds a lot like how I felt when I started taking SSRIs
See. I am arguing with myself and its ok.
Checkout Eckhart Tolle’s books.
Treat your inner voice as an outsider and question it all the time. This will limit your impulsive behaviors. Helped me quit cigs.
Wait, so my brain can constantly tell me I’m a loser and that I’m worthless but I don’t necessarily have to believe it?
Your thoughts are leaves in a stream, you are the observer watching them flow by.
I’ve read abour this before. Science largely backs the idea that your brain is a non-stop „thought factory,“ much like your heart is a 24/7 pump. This constant mental chatter is driven by the Default Mode Network, a system that keeps your gray matter buzzing with simulations and memories even when you aren’t focused on a specific task. Because many of these thoughts are just random neurological noise or intrusive flashes, neurobiology and modern psychology emphasize that **you are not your thoughts**; instead, your prefrontal cortex acts as an executive editor, tasked with filtering this chaotic, involuntary brainstorming into the intentional decisions that actually define you.
*I had to use a little help from Gemini, since english is not my main language.
Imaging you are the puppet master… And your thoughts are the puppet.
Been thinking like that for 20 years.
I argue with my inner thoughts.
I wonder if this is why meditation often performs well in studies about coping with life. It’s literally a training platform for how to not engage with your own train of thought.
Seperation of self from one’s ego is very powerful.
I’m not a naturally positive person, but I’ve damn sure learned the mental tools for how to attain a positive attitude – and therefore enjoy my life.
As soon as I heard Akron/family sing: I am not my thoughts I, I started working at connecting with this idea. It’s something westerners are not taught to examine outside of art and literature, but we all should get into the practice of radical honesty and critical self reflection and meditation generally.
Isn’t this like stoicism? I believe stoicism encourages to choose how you react to he circumstances.
Getting diagnosed with OCD at a young age helped me develop this skill! My child psychiatrist helped me embrace the distinction between my internal impulses and my external actions
I had an emotionally neglectful childhood filled with anxiety and compulsive behavior. It was rough and I had little help navigating it. But it did teach me to be introspective and to be rational about my thoughts. I have hit a good balance now, few things really get to me, I have a handle on my emotions, but I am not numb (I was, for a good while). I can genuinely enjoy things and I have windows of sincere happiness.
I’m noticing now that the way I view things, that seems really obvious to me, give others pause and they have never considered them.
Be kind to yourself, but don’t succumb to a victim mindset. It sucks for yourself and others.
a distinction most people never understand? It is not a hard concept to understand, it is hard for people to believe it is possible. Common reaction I get to explaining it in hospital is „that sounds nice“.
You are not the voice inside your head. You are the awareness that perceives them, along with all the other internal and external phenomena, and decides whether and how to respond.
Wait, you mean it is not the natural way?
That people just rawdog reality by feeling it without conscious filter?
I feel like this is really easy to say and impossible to actually do.
If the goal is to turn the situation into a positive one, I found for myself, the solution is not the blanket statement to „think positive“, it is „how can I turn this into a challenge?“
That simple trick usually gets me through 90% of my battles. The rest of the time, I like to think „will this one thing, this one small thing be the thing that ends it for me? Will this thing break me? I guess I’m just going to have to wait and find out. I can’t do it myself because that would be cheating. We’ll have to let nature take its course and see what happens.“
Not once yet has nature decided for it to be my end. Things seem to just go on and everything is fine when I am done catastrophizing in the corner. So I got that going for me.