Einer neuen Studie zufolge hat das Versenden einer SMS am nächsten Morgen (im Vergleich zu sofort oder Tagen später) die besten romantischen Ergebnisse. Frauen schienen empfindlicher auf das Timing von Textnachrichten nach dem Date zu reagieren als Männer. Die Ergebnisse deuten darauf hin, dass das Spielen mit schwer zu erreichenden tagelangen Wartezeiten oft nach hinten losgeht, anstatt das Verlangen zu wecken.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/the-psychology-of-relationships/202601/how-long-should-you-wait-to-text-after-a-date
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How Long Should You Wait to Text After a Date?
New research reveals a surprising post-date sweet spot that boosts romantic interest.
Key points:
We’re often advised to wait 3 days after a date before texting—but there’s no evidence to support this „rule.“
**In a new study, texting the next morning (vs. immediately or days later) has the best romantic outcomes.**
**Women appeared more sensitive to post-date text timing than men.**
**The findings suggest that playing hard-to-get by waiting days often backfires rather than builds desire**.
For those interested, here’s the link to the peer reviewed journal article:
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/02654075251377184
Women usually pay more attention to when you text back being genuine and timely matters more than trying to play games.
If you’ve had a good date and the person you’ve had it with is thrown by you texting the same day, then you’re better off with someone else, in my opinion. Playing hard to get in any way shape or form is a sign of immaturity. Better move on immediately.
The three day rule is a hangover from when you had to call the person to arrange another date. Nowadays, especially with the instant gratification available from online dating, I could have fallen in love with you on the date but if it takes you three days to respond to a message post-date, I’ll have forgotten you even exist by that point.
Texting in the morning is an elite move. It feels well adjusted, like they think of you in their busiest hours, and don’t just get interested when they’re horny at night
So I get it. I would be put off by this behavior. I never had to use a dating app though so I know things are different. The night I met my wife I knew something was special and she left before I got her number. The next day I called a friend to get her number (not knowing wife was right there – also friend didn’t know how to share that info in the moment). I got the number and called her immediately. It was a brief call as I was driving across the country that day but it set us up for more regular conversation later. Later she said she liked how quickly I got her number and how I didn’t wait to call her.
I for the life of me cannot imagine not checking in after a date to make sure they got home safe or to let them know I made it home safe.
Like I do this for outings I’m invited to with coworkers that my life would honestly be better if I never saw them or heard from them again. I truly cannot fathom not doing for someone I invited on a date.
Everyone I know is like this towards me too, but now I’m low key wondering if they do it as accommodate an oddity of mine rather than something they do also.