Close Menu
    Unterhaltung

    Jay Leno sagt, er sei gefragt worden, ob er sich inmitten des Demenz-Kampfes seiner Frau „eine Freundin holen“ würde


    Jay Leno sagt, er sei gefragt worden, ob er sich inmitten des Demenz-Kampfes seiner Frau „eine Freundin holen“ würde

    https://www.eonline.com/news/1427349/jay-leno-on-dating-amid-wifes-dementia-battle

    View 27 Comments

    27 Kommentare

    1. Upstairs_Cup9831 on

      >As the Tonight Show alum has acted as a caregiver to wife Mavis Leno during her battle with advanced dementia, he’s faced some shocking questions about his personal life.

      >“My favorite thing was—this is the most Hollywood thing,” Jay recently recalled on Life Above the Noise With Maria Shriver. “A guy said to me, ‘So, are you gonna get a girlfriend now?’”

      >The question surprised Jay, who responded, “‘Well no, I have a girlfriend. I’m married. Married 45 years.’”

      >To which he recalled the other guy saying, “‘Yeah, but you know what I mean.’”

      >But the comedian emphasized he is not interested in seeing other people. “No, we’re kinda in this together here,” Jay explained about taking care of Mavis through sickness and health, joking, “‘Honey, I’ll be with my girlfriend. I’ll be back later.’”

      >“You take a vow when you get married and people are stunned,” the comedian mused, “they’re so shocked that you live up to it. Why?”

      >As the 75-year-old put it, people often make a big deal when “you’re just doing the right thing because you’re supposed to.”

      >“That used to be the norm,” he continued, “and then when you strayed that was the out of whack part. Now the out of whack part is fairly common, and staying and doing what you’re supposed to do is stunning to people.”

      >And despite the difficulties he and Mavis, 79, have faced since her diagnosis, the comedian is grateful that this has been the most difficult test he’s faced in his life, adding, “This is that thing of, ‘OK, you’ve been pretty lucky up to this point. It’s been easy sailing. This is where it gets a little tricky.’”

      >Jay shared that he’s always trying to focus on the positive side of their situation, and that making Mavis laugh “is still one of my primary things.”

      >“The other night we’re lying in bed, and Mavis says—it’s like 2 o’clock—she goes, ‘Honey I love you,’” he recounted. “I said, ‘You’re having a nightmare, go back to bed.’ She thought that was the funniest thing, she just couldn’t stop laughing. And to me that’s what’s fun. ‘Oh, I got a laugh out of her.’”

      >Jay—who tied the knot with Mavis in 1980—filed to establish a conservatorship over his wife’s assets in January 2024, according to legal records obtained by E! News at the time. His conservatorship was officially established that April.

      >And amid the laughter, there have been extremely difficult moments for the couple, like when Mavis kept reliving painful past memories over and over again.

      >“Probably the toughest part was every day she’d wake up and realize someone had called today to tell her her mother had passed away,” Jay shared with Today in November. “And her mother died every day for, like, three years.”

      >Each time it was as if Mavis was “learning for the first time.”

      >“That was really tricky,” Jay admitted. “That makes it hard.”

    6. ISuckAtFallout4 on

      Some people are truly lucky to end up asking questions to people who won’t beat the shit out of them.

    7. XcuseMeMisISpeakJive on

      Sadly, it’s because it’s such a common thing for a spouse to do. B Smith’s husband even moved his mistress in with them.

    9. ealasaid76 on

      I guarantee you it was a MAGA type „news“ outlet that asked that question. Disgusting.

    11. jimmycurry01 on

      He is married to someone he loves very much. He is taking care of her full time as she slowly slips away from him. Anyone who asks such a thing is a terrible person.

    15. ProtonPi314 on

      I mean Jay at times has been a bit of a POS to people.

      But no matter how you feel about him, being a dick about his situation to get clicks is terribly low and uncalled for.

    16. nodogsallowed23 on

      When my mom was dying, my step father made sure I knew how good of a man he was for not sleeping around on her. I was like, wow you’re amazing! Well done sir, a true nobleman.

      Barf.

    17. Slurpeepatch on

      I’ll forever die on the hill that we need to stop rehabilitating this two-faced fucker. After all the bullshit with him refusing to move on from the Tonight Show and screwing over Conan, I just don’t see why people seem to have forgotten what he did. Fuck him.

    18. Strange_Specialist4 on

      So with dementia, it does reach a point where they’re not the same person. You still love them, want the best for them, but they’re lost in the shadows of their mind and it’s different from physical ailments.

      I knew one guy who stopped recognizing his wife. He would go to the neighbors and ask them to call the police because there was a strange woman in the house. They were married for 50 years, but he became afraid of her.

      Super fucked up thing to ask anyone in that situation, what they choose to do is their personal business, but I wouldn’t blame someone in that situation for finding a new partner.

    19. gutman1000 on

      When my mom was dying my in-laws were asking shit like this. What the fuck is wrong with people?

    21. saltedsavior on

      He handled it way better than I would have. I would have absolutely cussed that motherfucker out for asking such a stupid question.

    22. moistmasterkaloose on

      Jay’s not as bad as people think. Not that the Conan thing is even relevant, but I see a lot of people going fuck Jay Leno I hate him he’s horrible because of the 2010 mess. By all accounts he treated his staff very well, always made time for fans, and took all the jokes at his expense in stride. The [super bowl commercial ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ls8d5Kw9qAQ)with him, Dave and Oprah after the mess is so funny. Despite being conniving when it came to the Tonight Show, he’s a decent man.

      People also discount how big he was in the standup scene during the 80s. He was probably Letterman’s most reliable guest and killed every time. His appearances were a big boost for the show. I recall Merrill Markoe (the head writer) saying that when they were in a rut they could always count on Jay to come on and knock it out of the park. He made 33 guest spots on the show, I believe Richard Lewis and George Miller (RIP to both) were the only ones who had more guest spots than that (but Marv Albert actually had the most total appearances).

      And not that it’s a crazy achievement to be loyal to your spouse in sickness and health but his devotion to Mavis is very sweet.

    27. unolemon on

      I get this a lot. I’m a young 53. My husband is 61 and mid stage dementia. He knows who I am. We’ve been married 32 years.

      I just can’t. I don’t want to. I’m lonely. I miss him. He’s dying. And one day he won’t know who I am. And I’m terrified of that day.

      Fuck anyone who thinks I should have a boyfriend. My mind isn’t even close to that. I love him. And I do everything I can to forget what’s really going on. I’m busy all the time so I don’t think.

      I’m sorry. Now I’m teary and I don’t like that. Gen X represses, I guess.

      If anyone gets to the end of this, thank you. It’s a bitch.

    Leave A Reply